Dating Again

No, not me! Who do you think I am?

Really, it's the brother-in-law. And it's really hitting me harder than I thought! About three years ago, BIL brought home a girl. She was GREAT! They hit it off, we hit it off, she fit in perfectly! She was at my baby showers, she was at our house after we brought the baby home, and she always brought him something every time she came! She was the perfect shoe-in for little man's aunt, on the hubby's side. They moved in together, she hinted around about getting married and having babies, and I was trying to get ready to share my "favorite daughter-in-law" crown. And then the unthinkable happened. They broke up, like in May or something. But, I just ignored that fact, because she still sent birthday cards, we still sent Christmas cards, and I refused to take down pictures of the two, like a little kid hoping that the divorced parents will somehow end up together again. I guess it's not going to happen, though.

This weekend, we got to meet BIL's NEW girl. We'll call her Mo. I was very nervous about meeting her, and I was also uncomfortable with the fact that he was bringing her here to stay at our house. When Girl #1 came, I had known her for a while, and I was okay with hanging out at my house in my pajamas in front of a person that I am comfortable with. This girl, Mo, I knew nothing about. I knew her age (younger than my sister), I knew her name (a.k.a. CoverGirl, from my FIL), and I knew that even though they hadn't been dating long, she told my BIL that she doesn't believe a man should have to cook or clean. WHAT?!? My husband is the main cook and cleaner of the house. That's because he's home the most. Am I supposed to work all week, and then come home and clean up after him and cook him meals because he's been home all day long and done nothing? (Oh, wait, that sounds like what I do anyway...)

Anyway, worrying aside, she seems nice. We were able to find things to talk about when the boys decided that they needed to get something out of the truck outside... since it took two of them and more than thirty minutes. She helped me clean my kitchen after Jonathan grilled us some steaks for dinner Saturday night. All in all, I would say that she's pretty nice.

But, I found myself comparing her to Girl #1, and almost calling her the wrong name once or twice. I hope I didn't do it and not notice, because then I would just feel bad. The hardest part though, is that now I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I want Mo to feel welcome and feel like we're friendly, but then again, I don't want to really get to know her that well, or really get attached, because what happens when/if THEY break up!?! How many times do I have to go through this? I don't really like this! I have been married for five years, and stopped dating when I met my hubby! How come I have to do this again? Can't I just meet her at the wedding from now on, and then I don't have to worry about whether or not I will like her anymore, because by then I'll have no choice.